And off she went to a better universe!
My mom was clearly the strong and independent type of woman. She always chose her own path in life no matter what.
At the time when she was young it wasn’t that common for girls to strive for a proper education. But she did. She realized in order to be independent she needed to educate herself. So she went to Anders Beckman’s school and became a fashion illustrator. In the end of the 40:es and beginning of the 50:es it wasn’t that common to travel abroad. Probably under wild and loudly protests from her parents she did travel in early age. One of the first trips she did was hitchhiking from Sweden to France, through a war-torn Europe. By this time the ideal here in Sweden was to have a secure source of income at a good stable employer. But not my mom. Once again she chose her independence over a stable and secure life. She became her own boss in the competitive and tough but on the other hand, highly creative fashion industry. An unusual mom compared to others...
Against all odds she bought a house and raised her only spoiled son (me) to be a good boy. She did this all by herself since my dad died way too early. She was a good mom but a bit unusual compared to other moms. She made me open my eyes with the wonderful to travel and also never to say no to new exciting dishes to eat.
In later years she was diagnosed with the Alzheimer’s disease. She really hated what that this terrible sickness did to her independence and integrity. When the years passed by and the sickness relentlessly got worse she got more and more dependent of help. She hated it by all her heart. She made the life a hell for all the helpers including her only spoiled son (me) who was coming there trying to do their best helping her. It was not that she was evil but she wanted her independency back and to take control of her own life again. Fuck this world!
I know she hated the thought of moving to the home for elderly. I deliberately waited as long as possible but the inevitable came and I had to take the decision for her to move. I like to think she made up her mind there. “Fuck this world, I am 92 years old and this is enough!” So maybe she did the only thing she had control over, stopped eating and drinking so she could make her last trip as soon as possible. So at 12.40 PM today she peacefully transferrd to a better universe.
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Lennart R
2/10/2019 10:58:56 pm
Hej Patrik,
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Patrik
3/10/2019 01:30:37 pm
Tack Lennart, jo det kändes trots allt som en lättnad att det inte drog ut alltför mycket på tiden.
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Hanelore
3/10/2019 02:44:25 am
My sincere condolences Pat.May our Lord bless and comfort you during this time of grief.Always takecare of yourself.
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Patrik
3/10/2019 01:32:01 pm
Thanks Hanne for the comment ❤️
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Nizane
3/10/2019 04:36:50 am
Hi Patrik, I can’t imagine what you must be feeling right now, but i want you to know i just here one call away 😕. I extend my deepest sympathy to you. May the soul of your beloved Mother be at peace with Our Heavenly Father.
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Patrik
3/10/2019 01:33:54 pm
Thanks Niza, thanks for your comment and I will bear that in mind ❤️
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Carolina Enström Gillner
3/10/2019 07:21:11 am
Kära Patrik, vilket liv Ingrid levt! Du har skildrat Ingrid så fint och så modig hon varit, att lyssna på sig själv och sedan leva det livet. Tänker nu på dig och var rädd om dig. Kram från Lina och Ella
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Patrik
3/10/2019 01:36:21 pm
Tack Carolina, jo jag är övertygad om att hon hade ett lyckligt och innehållsrikt liv vilket göra att det känns lite lättare trots allt. ❤️ till er båda.
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Lars Grop
3/10/2019 08:01:06 am
Patrik.
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Patrik
3/10/2019 01:37:55 pm
Tack Lasse ❤️, jo hon var verkligen en speciell karaktär på gott och ont...
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Annica
3/10/2019 04:27:50 pm
Hej vännen,
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Patrik
5/10/2019 11:47:59 pm
Hej Annica, tack för kommentaren. Jo du har rätt hennes envishet och styrka var både på gott och ont.
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Marianne B
5/10/2019 09:40:42 pm
Hej Patrik!
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Patrik
5/10/2019 11:51:21 pm
Hej Marianne,
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Pelle
6/10/2019 11:54:57 am
Hej Patrik!
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Patrik
14/10/2019 12:22:31 am
Tack för din kommentar Pelle ❤️
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8/12/2019 05:43:56 pm
Patrik.
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Patrik Lord
16/1/2020 05:32:39 am
Hej Irene, tack för din kommentar jag är ledsen att jag inte svarat tidigare. Det har varit mycket här en tid och just nu är jag utomlands. Men jag har hunnit gå igenom en del av Ingrids alla papper och jag såg att ditt namn förkom ofta på julkort osv. Så jag förstod att ni haft mycket kontakt.
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Mohammed
16/9/2020 10:50:27 pm
Lovely tribute of your mother. What a legend. RIP
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